The Toxic Cycle of the Trauma Triangle in Black Communities | Black History Month with Dr. Joan Part 5

Black History Month 2023 offers our Nation the opportunity to finally make the decision to heal. We need to contemplate the forgiveness of the Europeans, and other Nations, and the Forgiveness of ourselves so we don’t repeat the atrocities done to us.

We can no longer perceive traumatic events as something that happens to an individual with no ramification for everyone else in the community. A trauma endured by one person, is experienced by all members of their family and all members of the community not because of some conscious awareness of the individual’s experience, but the energetic and spiritual interconnectedness we all share.

Black History month makes it possible for the entire nation to free itself from the trauma triangle. The drama triangle (first described by Stephen Karpman in 1961) is used in psychology to describe the process through which we assimilate the roles of 3 individuals present in every traumatic moment: 1) the Victim (usually ourselves), 2) the persecutor or the one who wronged us, 3) the rescuer ( the person who was supposed to stop the event or comfort us in the aftermath but did not).

Whether it is a mental glitch or some highly complex process through which we heal, we replay the traumatic moment with new people adopting the role as persecutor and rescuer. We do this again and again until a moment of climax or divine intervention (i.e. cancer, divorce, life-threatening accident) forces us to end the trauma cycle and end the desire to become a victim once more.

In this episode of Hey, I’m Listening, Dr. Joan speaks about The death of Tyre Nichols as a moment of climax in the Trauma Triangle cycle. 

What you can expect from this episode

00:14 The death of Tyre Nichols

04:40 The Trauma Triangle

05:30 The Forgiveness we must contemplate

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About Dr. Joan

Dr. Joan Samuels-Dennis, Ph.D., is an award-winning Canadian speaker and authority on trauma recovery, reconciliation, and forgiveness. Joan has specialized in promoting the mental health and well-being of individuals, families, and communities for over a decade through her groundbreaking trauma recovery strategy, The Forgiveness Method.

Her career as an individual, couples, and family psychotherapist has helped countless people heal from their past, transform their mental health, overcome challenges, and reclaim their lives.

In 2016, she founded Becoming Inc., and in 2020 she founded the Village of Peace not-for-profit organization. Dr. Joan is the author of 490: Forgive and Live fearlessly, Forgive: Master The Art of Letting Go, and Becoming the Journey to Love, and the mind behind the revolutionary new therapeutic modality and certification “The Forgiveness Method” launching in 2023.

Dr. Joan is a Jamaican-Canadian Toronto native who lives in the beautiful community of Kamloops, B.C., alongside her loving husband and family.

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